So you’ve had your first baby (or your second/third/fourth/fifth/sixth/so on… I’m not judging!) and you feel like your social life has hit a total halt. Or maybe you just need to change up your social life because how your life was before kids is nothing compared to how it is with them. Well, that’s how this momma has been feeling and I’m glad I’m not the only one!
I decided to stop reading about a mom’s baby who just had the biggest blowout on her while she was getting a pedicure (oh wait, that was me, I shared that 😅) and instead put my social media accounts to work so that I could start making REAL connections. Okay, let me share my meeting fellow no comma mommas tips!
Facebook Groups 🌐
I’m in a million mom groups on Facebook, but they are filled with women from all over the world. So I decided to search for and join LOCAL momma groups. Easy enough, right? Well the tough part is not finding people to connect with, it’s actually putting in the work to BUILD a connection! In this case that means actually making myself known and active in these groups before I eventually try to make plans with these mommas.
Turns out there’s a ton of mommas just like myself who don’t want to only just set up play dates for our little ones, but want to make more mom friends and do things like go for a long walk in Target, a Starbucks date or go to a nail salon (Yeah, I learned my lesson, Eli should definitely stay home for that last one 🤦🏼♀️).
Meeting up with someone who I’ve only ever spoken to online sounds a little nerve wracking at first, but it ends up really not being scary at all because us moms automatically have so much to connect over! We’ve created beautiful humans who we get to share and adore with the rest of the world 🥰 By the way, it may not be local for you, but I recently started a No Comma Mommas Facebook group and would love to have you be a part of it!
Past Connections 👭
Another thing that I recommend trying is looking into past connections! You know that girl you used to go to school with and she just happens to have a child around the same age as yours now? Message her! It’s likely she’s also been gawking over pictures of your little one and would love to get together! That’s what I did recently. I literally just messaged a girl who also had a son a few months older than mine and said “wanna hang out sometime? I need more mom friends!” and guess what? She needed more mom friends, too!
We grabbed a Dragon Drink at a Starbucks in Target (Thank you Target and Starbucks Gods for combining the best of both worlds 🙌🏻) and just had a super fun time catching up (starting with our birth stories of course—sorry to the patrons who were forced to hear all about our not to be missed contractions and how quickly we dilated)!
Mom Apps 📱
Now, as you probably know if you read “Who is No Comma Momma?”, I married my high school sweet heart. So I didn’t ever get to go through that dating app phase that so many of my friends did. I was never jealous of that part, but I always wanted the ability to swipe through profiles because how fun would that be?! 🤣 Well, I learned from one of my best girl friends that there is a such thing for moms called Peanut! Yes, that’s right, a Tinder like app for fellow mommas! It’s so fun to read through a local mom’s profile and then decide if I’m going to “wave” at them or not. And it’s even more fun when I learn they waved at me because then we can start chatting and potentially set up a play date and/or mom hangout (did someone say Moscato?!). The more no comma mommas in my life the merrier 👯♀️
Mommy & Me Classes 👩👧👦
Mommy and me classes can have a huge range of activities—from story telling at a public library to working out with other mommas and babies! There are also support groups, such as ones for breastfeeding.
A lot of these sorts of things are posted in Facebook mom groups, but you can also view local and out of town events on Macaroni Kid. Just search for your location and a whole list will pop up!
Next month Eli and I are going to start a Mommy & Me music class for babies! What could be cuter than watching a bunch of babies in a circle banging on drums and giggling while all the mommas sing and dance with them?!
So, we have Facebook groups, hitting up former connections, mom apps, and mommy and me classes! There are so many ways to connect with other mommas–We just need to add one more thing to our already crazy schedules and put the work in!
I hope you can take a pause soon so that you can press play on connecting!
Until next time(no comma)
No Comma Momma
No Comma Momma 